THINK YOU ARE A DOM OR DADDY? ARE YOU SURE?

There are Doms and there are Daddies.  You can be one or the other or even both.  Some are there for the role play, the fantasy.  That is all well and good if both parties understand and agree to that.

My submission and my babygirl are not fantasy.  They are not role play.  They are my life, day-to-day.

The real Doms and Daddies will agree with what follows.  The new ones will learn.  The players and fakes will have an issue with it.

Saying you are a Dom or Daddy does not make it so.  Your actions prove it and that does NOT mean because you can act like a belligerent ass and order people around that you are Dom.

Being either means you accept responsibility for another human being.  You are responsible for having their best interests at heart.  Not only when it coincides with yours but always.  You are responsible for guiding and teaching her, not just about carnal things but about the ways of life.  You are responsible for making sure she feels loved and wanted and safe from harm before you even start sex or anything else.  You are responsible for her heart.  Sometimes circumstances don't work out but always be honest and when things end, be responsible and tell her.  Face to face, voice to voice, whatever you usual method of communication is. You are responsible for your actions toward her before, during and yes, even after the relationship ends.  Man up!

If you are online, read intros and profiles.  If someone is collared or taken, unless they say otherwise, respect their relationship.  I am open to friends and conversation but do not think because I am sub you can dominate me into thinking that I should go against my Masters and/or Daddies or even my better judgement.  To me, my collar is a deeper commitment than even a wedding ring.  It shows my love and trust for my Daddy is so complete that he has been given.. yes given...the right to make my decisions and use me as he wants.

Let the sub/babygirl take the lead.  If you must then ASK if they would like a Master or Daddy or even to play.  Don't assume.  As a sub I know that I hold ALL the cards, whether you think so or not.  Until I give you access to them do not call me "babygirl" "little one" or any such endearment.  They are special titles and reserved for special people in my life.

Also do NOT call yourself Master or Daddy unless the sub/babygirl belongs to you and she has explicitly said so.  Doing otherwise is rude and sends a red flag that you are not someone who understands or respects this sacred bond or the lifestyle.  If you are already guilty of having done this then apologize and be sincere about it.  People make mistakes and most of us can forgive.

If she has not consented to be owned or daddied by you then you are EQUALS.  Respect goes a long way in any relationship, be it friends or more.  Prove that you are worth her time, effort and then the ultimate gift...her submission.

I have used the terms she and babygirl and Dom and Daddy but this applies to any gender in any role across the board.  We are all people first and foremost.  You want more then prove you deserve it.